![]() You want to see where you're at.Īiden certainly isn't the only one to tell himself (or partner, if busted) that they're using the hook-up app to search for friendship. You want to know who likes you or thinks you're attractive. "It's both entertaining and ego-driven for sure," agrees Aiden. What they're doing is checking out their plan B's, to see if they're still appealing to others, to see if they're still attractive," says psychologist and relationship therapist Dr. "People are saying that they're doing it for friends, but that is extremely unlikely. ![]() Ignoring ethical non-monogamy-open relationship and polyamorous set-ups in which people are honest with their partners that they're still presenting as available and looking for new lovers-in the monogamous tradition, when times get tough, or the relationship is over, but we're not entirely ready to admit it, the availability of Tinder has made it shockingly easy to see what else is out there. While morally questionable, it's a move that's undeniably human. Mostly for entertainment purposes, but there is a lot of ego in there. "First, I never closed my account, and asked me to remove it from my phone, and I did…but then I brought it back. Being called out wasn't enough to get him to put down the cell phone. " called me out, saying: 'You were on fucking Tinder! You weren't on it to make friends you were on it because you wanted to get fucking laid!' And I was like, 'OK. He had just decided to stealthy re-join Tinder while coupled. "You know, I feel like I just wanted a good friend," Aiden* recalls telling a trusted (actual) friend over drinks. Read more: 'Platonically' Sleeping in the Same Bed with Someone: Probably Cheating ![]() Or you utter the biggest Tinder lie someone coupled in a monogamous relationship can tell themselves: "I'll just use it to make friends." You tell yourself you'll delete it later, that you just deserve a little excitement. With a flick of your finger, you download Tinder from the app store. With modern living, you don't even need to change out of your sweats for sparkly new human contact.
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